Use of sex as a manipulative factor

Don't be fooled by the subject this one is funny. This time from Frasier.

So, Frasier is having this discussion at home with his brother, his father and his nurse about how he kissed his lady boss in a heat of passion after a very hot argument. Question as to motive is raised and someone suggests that she might be manipulating Frasier.
Frasier prepares to go back to the radio station and ask her what's going on. As he's leaving, Daphne, the nurse, comments that men have also used sex to get what they want.
Frasier as he is leaving, stops with his hand on the doorknob, and says in an exasperated voice, "How can we we POSSIBLY use sex as a means to get what we want. SEX IS what we want!"

Thought of the day - 29th Dec 2006

Genuine beginnings begin within us,
even when they are brought to our attention by external opportunities.
- William Bridges

Happy New Year, everyone!!

She's a woman

"....because she's a woman! You guys hear what you want to hear!!"       - Becker

Becker is right. People, especially, women hear what they want to hear. Never what he's saying, but always what they can turn it into. Nothing is concrete, everything can be nurtured, or developed into something else, something they really want.

Oh, boy!!

Thought of the day - 28th Dec 06

Hope begins in the dark, the stubborn hope that if you
just show up and try to do the right thing, the dawn will come.
You wait and watch and work: You don't give up.
- Anne Lamott

Christmas Begins!

Well, my Christmas has begun. I don't care who was born how many thousand years ago and how millions of merchants milk it for their business. All I am thinking about is that I have continuous 5 days I don't have to go to work and on top of that, we got to leave office early today.

I left at 1300, went to the town center and had a haircut by girl wearing a Santa hat.
Bought supplies like I was a city expecting to be under siege. I
don't intend to stir out for the whole duration of the holidays.
And the weather seems to be tailor-made for that...dense fog, temperature -2 degrees celsius, happy holidays to me, I think.

Happy Holidays to everyone!!

Thought of the day - 22nd Dec 2006

You are either creating or allowing that which you are experiencing.
Stop complaining and begin to create a shift in your life!

It's definitely the thought that counts.

I have a simple arragement with my landlord about his mail that lands in
my mailbox, his mom's mail, to be precise. He left a bunch of addressed,
stamped envelopes with me and I periodically stuff all her mails into
one of the envelopes and drop it into a letterbox. Recently, I sent the
last of these big envelopes and put one slip of paper inside saying
"LAST ENVELOPE". This Monday evening, as I opened the door, I found a
big envelope inside, pushed through the mail-slot, containing several
more stamped, addressed manila envelopes.
And...with them a small card wishing me season's greeting and a
hand-written message from the lady herself, thanking me for forwarding
her mail. It's a small thing I do on my part, and the card was by no
means anything spectacular, nevertheless it brought a smile to my lips
and made me feel good.
Yes, I did reciprocate in the kind when I sent her the next batch of her
mails.

Thought of the day - 21st Dec 2006

I will love the light for it shows me the way,
yet I will endure the darkness for it shows me the stars.
- Og Mandino

Thought of the day - 20th Dec 2006

"Stop acting as if life is a rehearsal. Live this day as if it were your
last.
The past is over and gone. The future is not guaranteed."
- Wayne Dyer

Comments: It's easy to say that you live your day as if your last but
it's not possible; my boss would never agree to it!
If it were my last day and I knew it I would spend it at home, calling
people to tell them that I love them and what to do with the money I
buried in the backyard. Also, I'll be borrowing money from all and
sundry, so that there are more people to remember me when I am gone. :-)
Having said that, it is astonishing how we take life for granted and do
not cherish the time we have. Hindu theory of reincarnation
notwithstanding this is the only life you have, the only chance for you
to do whatever you want to do. Anything and everything. Yet we create so
many limits and boundaries for ourselves, so many things we think we
couldn't do or shouldn't do...and we miss out on an opportunity of an
eternity, to have fun, to bring joy to others, to make a difference in
the world...

But there is still time, as long as you have a single breath of life
left in you, never say it's too late for you to do something, use that
breath for something worthwhile...

What women like!

Man, I must be getting really good at reading people (or watching too much TV...lol).

So, Becker gets shot and he's making life miserable for his nurses and his doctor in the hospital, I told you that much in a previos post.

As I watched it, even as they were each other's throat, I was feeling a chemistry between this female doctor and doctor Becker.

But in today's episode when she allowed Becker to go home, (I missed the first 5 minutes so don't know how he got back into hospital), I thought maybe I was wrong.



Hehe, not at all. She actually comes to his home, and tells him she likes him. How do you like that?



The cute female doctor falls for the one patient who made her life hell and from whose room she, in her own words "always walked out so angry I could strangle you."



Still think you understand women? LOL.

Thought of the day - 19th Dec 2006

"Any fool can criticize, condemn, and complain - and most fools do."
- Dale Carnegie

Don't understand me, I hate that!

"Don't understand me, I hate that!" -Becker (TV show based in New York)



When I saw an episode of Becker, part of it actually before I changed the channel. Even though I was a fan of Ted Danson from "Cheers" I did not like him in this TV show. Dr. Becker was just too abrasive, opinionated, loud-mouthed and overall jerk.

But then somewhere, somewhen I liked one episode and then another, and now I make it a point to watch it every evening without fail and I am beginning to understand this guy.

Why? Because frighteningly enough, I am very much like him. I do not come off as abrasive as he does, (hopefully), but I am just as opinionated as he is, and I seldom keep these opinions to myself. "I don't mince words." is my motto.

But just like me Becker is also very sweet and gentle inside. He too, genuinely cares about people without being "politician sweet" about it.

The line in the topic is from the episode where Becker gets shot in the shoulder and his hospital doctor tries to patronize him. She has a job on her hands...lol. Finally, he leaves the hospital against her counsel.

Can't wait to see what happens next.

(P.S. There will, of course, be more posts about him).

Thought of the day - 18th Dec 2006

Responsibility starts when you dare to dream.

Comments: As long as you are satisfied with life as it is, when you want
nothing more than just follow the events and react to them, you are
fine. But the moment you want more, the moment you have a dream, the
moment you want something bigger, something better from life, your
responsibility starts. You are responsible to protect that dream against
all odds, you have to lead it through the treacherous hurdle-path of
reality with all its known and unknown perils. It is upon you to
preserve and cherish that dream through tough times and make it come
true.

That is why dreaming is reponsible work.

Words

Every week I call home to talk to my parents.

Every week I have nothing to say other than that everything is fine. No news, as they say, is good news.

They have almost nothing to say either, except that everything is fine.



And yet, the weekly call is important, not only to them but to me.



Maybe words aren't everything...

Thought of the day - 15th Dec 2006

Men are not prisoners of fate, but only prisoners of their own minds.
- Franklin D. Roosevelt, Pan American Day address, April 15, 1939
32nd president of US (1882 - 1945)

Thought of the day -14th Dec 2006

Someone sent this to me today:

Winners never quit, quitters never Win .

Never expect things to happen. Make them happen.

Never expect yourself to be given a good value. Create a value of your
own.

Thought of the day - 13th Dec 06

"Use time as a tool, not as a couch!"

Quote from Becker

Women are crazy, they don't take anything at face value; everything has a deeper meaning...

-Dr. Becker



[Disclaimer: Just because I find something funny enough to quote doesn't mean I agree with it.]

Thought of the day - 12th Dec 2006

"Never let your memories be better than your dreams!"

 

 

First steps

Why are the first steps so well-celebrated?

Laying of the first brick,

Kick-off of a new project,

Initiation of a business,

Rising of the Sun,

Start of a new job...



Why?



Because first step is an act of confidence, the first step shows our faith in ourselves as well as in the Universe. The first step says, yes I am terrified of the future but I will act and see what happens. The first step says, yes I know 8 out of 10 new businesses close in the first 5 years but I'll start one anyway. The first step says, I know the odds are against me, but I am sure as hell going to try.

The first step is when you stop thinking what can go wrong and start thinking what can you do to make things go right.

And when you do, when you act on that thought, the forces of nature join hands with you, the Universe cheers you on, you just have to stay on course and keep going...

Thought of the day - 11th Dec 2006

The secret to a rich life is to have more beginnings than endings.
- Ivy Baker

 

 

For several seasons. I have decided to add the TOD to my blog also from now on.

A journey of 100 miles starts with the first step

It's an old Chinese proverb and it is such an inspiring little pearl of wisdom. So many times in our lives we get intimidated by a task, a target, a goal because it's too big, too difficult or just too vast for us to handle. And so many times we let this fear push us to the side where we abandon the idea only because it's too big. If instead, we should divide the task into small parts, and figure out the first few steps, I think we would not be so terrified.

Social Cakewalk

SCapitalist said...

Interesting post. I wan't aware of this cultural difference. It amazes

me how different cultures can be, which often makes it hard to navigate

through the "unspoken" rules that most take for granted.

Well, what this gentleman says makes a lot of sense. It also reminds me of the first time that I traveled to US. I was simply terrified. Unlike most people I knew that in real life Americans don't run on streets with guns in their hands. I am quite proud of the fact that I had quite a lot of insight into the American way of life that went beyond understanding their language. But I was always afraid of a social or cultural faux pax because I didn't know what was expected of me.

Consider this, it's my second trip to US. I fly from Delhi, stopover in Europe, land in Detroit. I was supposed to go to Philly so in my mind this was still a stopover for me. As I am walking out of the restroom, (that's what they call the men's room), the guy ahead of me, holds the door open for me. And immediately it strikes me, "I am back in US!".



Fortunately for me, I was able to learn small, subtle differences like this over time in my first visit, with help from some nice colleagues in Philly and didn't make a single faux pax that'd humiliate me or my friends.

Beddy 'bye

I know that human body has a routine of its own which is clock-regular and doesn't need a clock. It involves eating and sleeping times, mostly. The whole concept of jet-lag is based on that.

My question is: Can a human body have a weekly sleep schedule as well as a daily one?

I go to bed around 1AM every night. But this is Friday night and I generally don't go to bed before 4A.M. This Friday though, I was feeling tired and went to bed at 10:30PM. Couldn't sleep. And I had a glass of sweet, warm milk just a little while ago. Still, no sleep. Kept trying, didn't work. And then my doesn't quit, keeps thinking of all those great ideas, things I could be doing if I were at the computer instead of flopping around in bed.

So, I did a couple of productive things and tried again. No use.

Finally, I got hungry.

So, here I am 2:06 in the morning. And I look like this:



Just had pizza and planning to try again at 3:00AM.

But the question remains, does the body have a weekly rhythm?

If yes, then I am doomed. :-)

Shoot for the stars

I started blogging..erm..er..this is embarrassing..I don't remember why exactly I started blogging. And to think that it has just been a small time. Oh, I just checked, it's been 3 months since I started. So, basically I still am at it and not yet grown tired of it, and O'Reilly and the whole web 2.0 thing includes blogging as the in-thing and a cute girl called Shai thinks it's kinda fun to have a blog with 1000 or more entries, so....I have decided that I will shoot for it and try to achieve that within 2 years from now.

It can be done, that's not a problem. The challenge is to maintain the quality of the content. I am up for it. You'll just not see all blogs written by me, but some useful and/or interesting content referred to by me also.

So, here's to the first step of a journey of a 1000 miles. Cheers.

Web 2.0

It's a wonderful concept.

I have always been excited by the thought of communication bringing people together, combining ideas, joining forces, creating synergy..well, web 2.0 seems be geared about that. You can read about it here.



http://www.oreillynet.com/pub/a/oreilly/tim/news/2005/09/30/what-is-web-20.html





And this is where I read about it first.

http://stubborncapitalist.com/2006/12/05/welcome-to-web-20/

A random thought

Ae naye dost maiN sam_jhooNga tujhe bhii apna,

Pehle maazi ka ko_ii zakhm to bhar jaane de.

Mind Your Language

Interesting post by my friend. That's why I like her blog.

Fraternity Blog: Mind Your Language

What kind of people are they?

After spending a lifetime in India when I went to US for the first time and called home, my dad asked, "How are the people there?" and I said, "They are very nice. Very helpful, courteous and ...nice!"

From all that we knew of America, not just my dad but I was also expecting people to be more business-like, to-the-point and well, detached! They were not!

And then I said the same thing of Germans.

And more recently the British.

 

I got to thinking, were there no bad people in US? Of course, there were. Not every human interaction was as silver-lined as I'd like it to be. But that was true everywhere. I got to the conclusion that no matter what country you are in, people are everywhere the same. You will find your helpful, going-out-of-their-way nice guys, you'll find your me-first-who-the-hell-cares-about-you assholes, your I-know-it-all-and-you-are-stupid smart-alec's and so on.

But majority of people are nice. Everywhere!

 

I still remember the mobile-salesman who, when I faced him after a 30-minute wait in the queue, and asked, "Do you speak English?", said, "No!" with a curt and cutting tone that made me want to find an ice pick!

But I can never forget the nice lady behind the SubWay counter who tediously pointed to each and every item, just so she could get my burger exactly the way I wanted even though there was no common language between us.

 

It was people like her who made Germany bearable for a foreigner who had crossed the border with a limited vocabulary of one phrase, "Danke Schoen!".

 

Perfect imperfection

I am not one of those people who say everybody is beautiful and beauty is skin deep and blah, blah, blah. I am blunt, I am outspoken and I say what I think. If I see someone ugly, I'll say it (though not to their face) and that's why I have no illusions about my own looks.

But one thing that I have observed all these years.

No matter how ugly or how pretty someone is, it's a 100% sure chance that their face looks the best when they smile. Even an ugly face looks less ugly, most times a little pretty, when lit up with a sweet smile.

/>I have always considered mine to be a very ugly smile, all uneven and crooked. It surprised me when my martial arts teachers in US named me Sunny (Sunil is hard to pronounce for them) and attributed it to my "sunny smile". I thought they were just being polite. But somewhere, somewhen, someone convinced me that this was really the case! :)

What about you? You think you are not pretty, why don't you smile and check...

Our logic

Following the alleged insult of a statue of B. R. Ambedkar, riots started in almost all Parts of Maharashtra and by the time I checked the news the tally was 3 people dead, 60 injured.

 

So, it's a well established fact now, that concrete statues are much more valuable than living flesh-and-blood people. At least in India.

I find it ironical that the same people, Ambedkar, Jinnah, Gandhi, who worked all their life to erase the boundaries and bring people closer, are being used as an excuse to tear people apart, to incite violence, to kill people, to rob cities, to burn trains and create mayhem.

 

As Indians all we care about is temples, mosques, statues and certain selected animals. What happens to the little kid who loses his mother in the mindless violence, nobody gives a shit.

 

And then we wonder why we are not the superpower?

 

Something to do

"The Grand essentials of happiness are: something to do, something to love, and something to hope for."

Man does long for that "something to do" with every bit as much craving as for ther other things in this magic formula.

"Devil finds work for the empty hands."

"An empty mind is the devil's workshop."

"Busy have no time for tears."

"Work is the best antidote for sorrow."

There are numerous dictums and expressions to endorse this opinion that work is a basic need of human beings.

 

And face it, you enjoy the movie the best when you have the finals the next morning. I personally, enjoy goofing off, when I have a lot of things pending. And I always do.